Everyone reacts to stress differently, and not everyone can admit their struggles, even to someone close to them. That’s the view of Tema Bryant, president of the American Psychological Association. She shared some signs professionals watch for to tell if someone is facing certain challenges in their life.
Delayed Responses to Your Messages
One common sign of emotional difficulty is sudden withdrawal. If someone who used to reply to your messages within an hour or a day now takes much longer, it’s likely that something is weighing on them.
Self-isolation can be a coping mechanism for depression because it can make people feel more in control.
Uncontrollable Skin Picking and Nail Biting
Many people under stress pick at their skin, bite their nails, or pull their hair. These behaviors can be a way to relieve tension or anxiety, Bryant explained.
Self-Destructive Comments
Bryant says a friend’s pessimistic remarks — like “Why would anyone hire me?” or “No one wants to date me because I’m the worst” — can point to deeper problems. Those statements often reflect feelings of hopelessness and powerlessness.
Pets or Children Fear Your Friend
If a child or a pet seems frightened of your friend, it could signal a mental health problem. In that state, a person might lash out at whoever crosses their path, even the most vulnerable.
Sudden Weight Loss or Gain
According to Tema Bryant, unexpected changes in weight are a common sign of distress. People dealing with depression often eat less or more as a way to cope with negative emotions, the Daily Mail reported.
Accumulation of Items in the Home
A sudden buildup of items in the home can also indicate emotional difficulty. It might look like clutter, or it could be a collection of things that provide comfort and security — clothing, books, or sentimental souvenirs.
Bryant explains that hoarding can be another coping mechanism for dealing with painful experiences.
Outbursts of Anger Over Minor Issues
If your friend is getting angry over trivial matters, it’s likely they are struggling emotionally.
What to Do for a Friend Struggling with Issues?
Start by calmly asking if they’re okay, without making assumptions aloud. Framing it as a simple, nonthreatening question makes it easier for them to respond.
Bryant says that if something serious is going on, your friend may tell you. If they do, listen without rushing to judgment and show a genuine willingness to help. Small acts of kindness can also matter: order their favorite food and share a meal, bring a thoughtful gift, or offer practical support. If your friend has lost their job, reassure them that they can find a new one.
